What is a 'Good' Date?

Obviously, everyone has different expectations of what constitutes a good date, but all the feedback I've gotten so far from conversations with friends, family, and strangers boils down to one word: Effort.

What is 'Effort' in a date?

In short, I'd say the majority of people agree that effort is the time, thought, and energy put into creating a memorable and enjoyable experience. It's less about grand gestures, and more around trying to consider preferences, choosing a thoughtful activity, and making sure the details—like reservations, timing, or setting—are well-organized.

The difficulty, and reason for designing DateSetGo, arises from organizing that effort can be time consuming and requires a little bit of skill that not everyone might have. Not everyone knows all the websites, influencers, city pages, or local resources to find the niche, awesome outings that help with a unique experience. Let alone the time to scrape and sort through them all to make sure timing and availability work. And that those experiences are within a certain distance of a place to eat which matches dietary or personal preferences. And that you remember to check the weather and dress appropriately. And to get gas. And take something if you have gas.

The focus should be on the genuine intent of wanting to have an amazing time with someone else, not on how skilled they are at logistics.

This isn't for lazy people.

Let me be clear about a dating philosophy regarding DateSetGo: it's not going to artificially create effort. Someone who doesn't care about putting effort into planning a date isn't going to use the app no matter how much the work is spoon fed to them ("You can lead a horse to water..."). I personally find it sad the number of people I've conversed with who express some form of, "I don't care about planning a date. I'll just take them where I feel like."

I am designing DateSetGo for the rest of us who want to take a partner places that makes them feel special and considered, but may be short on the time, energy, or skill to fulfill that desire. I already know someone's partner out there probably already knows their companion loves houseplants or technology or anything involving tortillas, but just needs a little nudge on how to amalgamate those into a date. (Checking out a plant cutting swap before a picnic of soft tacos and trying to fly some cheap drones, perhaps?)

Date Ideas

Unique: Do a ‘Hot Ones’ style interview (increasing spicy Hot Sauces) of each other with relationship questions

Budget: Play bingo at one of those local lodge places. Bring snacks. Talk shit to the elderly?

Active: Try some beginner aerial yoga moves together. *ON PADDING*

Conversation Starter

"If you could taste colors, which color do you think would surprise people the most? Why?"